Taken literally, jealousy refers to a strong desire for someone else’s stature or possessions. However, in a social setting, it causes someone to be doubtful of their partner and feel threatened by their interaction with certain people, the clothes they wear or the places they go.
But, like we mentioned before, there are varying degrees of jealousy.
Jealousy does not necessarily merit its negative connotation; after all, it’s normal for men to be suspicious of their women (and vice versa). Having reservations about her going to a strip bar with friends or not enjoying the sight of her drooling over some guy in a magazine are innocent examples of how some jealousy can be harmless, and a perfectly normal reaction.
Likewise, a man who voices his concern over having his girlfriend go out with a bunch of guys or seeing another man flirting with her is also part of a healthy relationship. Often, a man is just looking out for his girlfriend’s well-being and women usually respect that. They may even be insulted if you don’t say anything.
The problem arises when aggression and/or violence accompanies the jealousy. Once you’ve reached this stage, you obsessively begin questioning her loyalty to you, and that sends you into a rage, maybe even causing you to use physical force.
You inherit an extremely low tolerance level and, before long, she is unable to even look at another guy or leave your side when you’re both out. You demand to know where she is at all times and the mere mention of another guy’s name sends you off the deep end.